Monday, March 5, 2012


Heartbreak. It's a rough one. One of my closest friends is going through a break up. She thought they'd marry, it's that kind of break up. Admittedly, she's been living in limbo, waiting for The Ring, for months and, honestly, has been miserable not knowing, waiting, wondering.

Being miserable, however, before the break up, doesn't make it any easier when it happens. She's devastated and torn apart, convinced she won't survive this. One forgets that acute pain (thank god!) attached to breaking up with somebody. That feeling of not being able to breathe. Watching her, hearing her, I seem to absorb some of her pain, and am flung back to my own heartbreaks. I'm a bit of a sponge like that. This is not necessarily a good thing.

I figure, though, that maybe, if I can absorb just a little bit of it, I could make it easier for her. Obviously I know this isn't true, only time'll make it better. Ugh, horrid. It's always so hard in the acute stages to see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel and it's made worse by his behaviour now which, honestly, is just odd.

Best I away though, to take her out, feed her a delicious drink, and remind her (and me) there's lots out there still.


Robyn said...

horrible-a horrible pain that is always so hard to explain.glad you are there for your friend-to wipe the tears away

Angela said...

Any consolation sounds pale, she has to cope with all her feelings on her own. But having a good friend is a wonderful gift.
One day she will understand that breaking up NOW was better than after more wasted years or even babies. Still, no help now. Yes, a good outing or two and some green drinks will dampen it a bit.

Family Affairs said...

Aaah. Thats sad but lucky old her to have you as a friend. Just make her laugh and fill her up with wine. Lx